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Are limiting thought patterns getting in the way of your success? What about the success of your clients?
Becky Mollenkamp is a certified business mindset coach who believes everyone deserves to feel powerful and fulfilled. She owned a six-figure content marketing agency for a dozen years before becoming a coach in 2017. Through her one-on-one services and courses, Becky has coached thousands of women to dream and play bigger, while also finding contentment in the here and now.
Read on to learn actionable strategies you can use to figure out how to limit your limiting beliefs - before they get in your way (or your client's!).
Show Notes:
1:32 - How Becky got into Mindset Coaching
“It started about a decade ago, when in the space of six months I was dealing with the economic fallout of the recession of '08 and then watching my business go from six figures to barely $15,000. At the same time going through a divorce and the death of my grandmother and my brother, all in like six months. So, it was a lot to say the least. And out of that, followed from that was a few years of depression, reasonably so.
I realized I had been living a life of shoulds, but not really the life I wanted.
And out of that I was like, I want to help other women. After I rebuilt everything, I rebuilt my business, I rebuilt myself.”
3:02 - What Becky defines as a “limiting belief”
“It's those things we know are holding us back, but we can't seem to stop them. So, most of my clients say that they realize that they are getting in their own way, but they don't understand why. And usually it takes the form of some act of self sabotage.
When I think of limiting beliefs, mostly what I'm really thinking is self-sabotage.
It's those times that we are getting in our own way and preventing ourselves from doing what we really want in life out of some fear. They're almost always rooted in fear.”
3:49 - Why smart entrepreneurs self-sabotage
“The problem is sometimes our smarts get in our own way, and so we will overthink things overanalyze, but then also beat ourselves up because we think, I should be able to just figure this out. I should be able to just go over this myself…”
“…A lot of people are pretty good at identifying some things like procrastination or perfectionism or imposter syndrome. All of those things are limiting beliefs or acts of self sabotage.
People will sometimes think, “perfectionism just means I really want things to be great. They don't see that that's actually a limiting belief, because that's black and white thinking. It's holding yourself back from being able to do something that you really want. It's really just an excuse to not have to do the work by saying, well, it has to be perfect first or I can't do it.”
6:44 - Other signs that limiting beliefs are holding you back
- Perfectionism
- Procrastination
- Time management issues
- Imposter syndrome
- Comparing yourself to others
8:07 - Practical strategies for overcoming limiting beliefs
“The difference becomes being able to recognize it more quickly and then being able to not let it hold you back…. What will happen is you'll be able to see it for what it is, and then being able to make a decision to do something different.”
- Begin a daily mindset practice.
“I want to quickly share one resource that I think is really helpful. It's the foundational beginning piece that I use with my one-on-one clients. We start to uncover what the fear is about. We start with a book called, The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. I can't recommend it enough. He talks about the four underlying fears that really are what cause all of these things to happen. So, if you read about those four underlying fears, do some journaling and think about it, you can start to understand what's at the root of your fears. And again, that awareness piece is so big. Once you see it, you can't unsee it. And you can begin to start recognizing things for what they really are.”
”A daily mindset practice [ …] hopefully will lead to an “in the moment” mindset practice. So that when a thought, a limiting belief comes up, you can start to do it in the moment.”
- Ask yourself three questions every day:
- What’s happening in your brain right now?
- “What am I stewing on? What am I feeling? It’s taking that moment of awareness and just getting in touch. Because very often we don’t take that time to think about what we’re really feeling.”
- What are the facts?
- “It's shocking to me sometimes when I ask really smart women, what are the facts about that? That they give me feelings over and over again. And they really believe they're facts. So we love to buy into our own stories. We want to believe the narrative that we've created for ourselves as real. When I'm asking facts, I mean, something that's measurable, something that is truthful, that is objective, that anyone could see as being a fact.”
- What’s my choice here?
“Now we're taking back our power and control, and getting out of the mindset that the world's happening to me and instead saying, I'm making a choice.”
If you enjoyed this interview with Becky Mollenkamp, be sure to download her Imposter Syndrome workbook at beckymollenkamp.com/mealgarden.
Further Reading:
Why Feeling Calm Matters For You And Your Health Coaching Clients With Gabrielle Treanor
How to Practice Transformational Self Care For Your Business and Self - With Kyla Maki
What to do if Your Protocols Just Don’t Stick As a Health Practitioner - With Adele Wellness
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